Good day all of my readers! I’ve been busy gardening, trying to catch up with my farm chores, so my newest blog is a little late. Sorry, but between that and my granddaughter who was sick, it kinda got me backed up!
Anyone who knows me, knows that I write because not only do I love to write, but because I feel I’d like to share some of my wisdom with you. I wish I had a mentor when I was younger, who could’ve helped me and my empathic issues. It would’ve made a big difference in me and some of my life choices. I hope that I can be of service to you. Also, feel free to comment or send me an email. I am sill learning, and I like to hear about other people’s experiences!
So…….to make a long story short, I’ve been going through some tough crap lately. My granddaughter got very ill(By-the-way, thanks for all of your support. She is better, but they may still have to operate. Please keep praying! You know it works!), and I was besides myself with worry. Anyways, I have a good friend(at least I THOUGHT she was), who called me often to talk to me about her problems. I sometimes told her about mine, but thinking back, it was very one-sided. And when I thought about it, it always had been a one-sided relationship. That’s when I finally decided to cut her loose.
It’s funny how sudden chaos in your life can reveal your true friends. It seems to me that most people aren’t supportive, or only supportive as long as it suit their needs. I have learned, that in this world, there are two kinds of people; givers and takers. The problem as an empath is that we are givers. It is a part of who we are. I’ve had so many takers in my life, I don’t know where to even start.
Here’s the biggest issue that we empaths have trouble with; cutting people out of our lives. Since we want to help and can feel what these people are feeling, it’s really really hard to let go. I know that when I hurt someone, I can feel their pain, so instead of taking care of myself, I let people stay in my life, often hurting me and depleting me of all of my energy.
Case in point. I really needed someone to talk to. So I called a couple of friends. Both completely blew me off, not even listening to a word I said. Now I cannot even recall how many times that these people called me with their problems, where I sat for hours listening. (You know no one really wants help, they just want to vent. So I just lend an ear.) There is something to be said about most Empaths; we are loyal and caring. We would give our shirts off our back. But there is also a time to cut people loose who just take and take. I was told one time by a wise person who commented; There are two people in this world; Givers and Takers.” And it’s very true. We as Empaths are almost always the givers, and we get used and used, and used, and used, and………………..
Until WE stop the cycle. We can still offer our gifts without letting people take advantage of us. There is nothing wrong with cutting people out who are sucking you dry, including family members. we need to take care of ourselves. How can we be of service to the world if we are constantly sucked dry? It’s one thing to help someone who can balance out the Karma; it’s another thing to have someone take, and take, and take.
I think my problems stem from wanting to belong so badly in my childhood. I put up with anything as long as I had people who approved of me. It’s a growth thing. I also have a bad habit of not putting my foot down and letting others bully me. And I also don’t like confrontation. But I am learning. I recently confronted someone and won an argument and felt very empowered. I always try to not hurt other’s feelings, because I can feel how bad I’ve made them feel. But how bad have they made ME feel? Why do I think that is less important? It’s a growth thing that we Empaths go through. So I deleted them from my Social Media, my phonebook, and my email accounts. And you know what? I felt bad for maybe a day, but now feel relieved. And the funny thing is, by getting rid of my negative energy, I ATTRACTED a lot more great people. Try this….it’s in the long run, you will benefit!
Are there people bringing you down? BLOCK THEM! And don’t feel guilty. Try taking care f yourself for once!