The Bullied Empath

20181119_072420-3.jpgHi guys, I hope you are well.  I haven’t been on here for quite awhile because I am now on Youtube, and it’s taking a lot of my time.  What I am doing now is writing a whole lot of articles, and then releasing them slowly so you can read them.  My psychic business has just exploded, and has kept me busier than a one-armed paper hanger!

So I though I’d write about something that is near and dear to my heart;  bullied empaths.  I know there are lots and lots of us out there, and I just wanted to maybe offer some suggestions, and to let you know you are not alone.

There are some people who do not know what an empath is;  if this is the case, please visit my youtube channel, Lana the Comedian Medium for some sign or characteristics that you may be one.  But for most of us, we already know.  I know that I am one.

Now there are some people that say that Empaths are made by experiences, and not created.  I feel this is partially true, but either way, empaths tend to be the bullied ones.  You know, the ones that people have a tendency to pick on because they(we) are easy targets.  Empaths are emotional, caring, worrisome, usually suffer from anxiety, stress, low self-esteem and almost always put everyone ahead of their own needs.  Yes, I feel that this can be created by circumstances, but I truly think that these people were born this way.  I would also care to say about 30%of the people in the world are also Empaths.

I know what bullying is all about.  I’ve been bullied my whole life; through childhood to adulthood.  I’ve tried not to let it bother me, but it does.  I think the worst is workplace bullying.  It’s probably the worst because you are an adult and yet, you feel like a helpless child.  I get it.  It never seemed like I could say the right words to make a dig back at them, and if I did, even though they were bullying me, I felt bad that I hurt them, even when they were torturing me. (Welcome to the world of the Empath!!!!)I’m in the process of healing, and these are some of the things that I’ve bending to help me heal.  I am currently writing a book about this, because I feel this is such a huge issue, with not a lot of help out there is regards to healing.

  1.  Try to get away from situations that are causing the bullying.  I know this is hard and at times, almost impossible.  It can be even harder if you family is creating the issues.  Do what you have to do to make changes that takes care of your spirit.  I left a job that I had for 25 years because of workplace bullying(I don’t care what anyone says, teachers can be the worst bullies out there!)  Yes, I am close to retirement, but even after creating a new job for myself, I can finally see my worth.  I am no longer feeling defeated, worthless and unappreciated.  If you can get away, do.  If not these things might help you deal with these painful situations.

A.  I pray for those who persecute me. Yes, it’s Biblical, and yes, it works.  It seems    like it releases my pent up anger.  I am realizing that they are bullying because either, 1. they have been bullied by someone else,  2. don’t like themselves much or are  3. just insecure and lack self-esteem.  I always remember what a good Native American friend told me once.”Just remember, when someone insults you are belittles you, it is a reflection on themselves and how they are actually feeling about themselves.  It has taken me many years to learn to pray and forgive, but, yes it works.

B.   Talk to others who have been bullied.  Find support from a group a friend or a relative.  Everyone needs to realize that many people have been bullied.  Bullies seen to like to try to isolate us;  bullying at its core is the non-acceptance and isolation from a group dynamic;  humans are social animals that need to belong to a group, traditionally for survival.  Being removed or alienated in the past meant death.  That is why bullying is so traumatic;  you may end up dying if not in a group.  That’s why we conform, that’s why we want acceptance.  That’s why bullying is no painful.  Form you own group!  I did this in High School and ended up with friends I still have 30 years later.

C.   Acceptance that these experiences are what have made you into the person you are today.  I know this can be hard, because of self-talk and lack of self-esteem, but they are crucial for healing.  I learned over the years to just laugh at myself and some of my silly circumstances.  This seems to help.  It has taken me 52 years to be able to say that I like who and what I’ve become.  I practice saying this in the mirror to myself every single day.  I have a mantra that I say each morning;  I am a good person, I am loved and valued, I am important.  I say it in a mirror. It’s a form of meditation that I practice.

d.  Try some Rapid-eye movement.  This is controversial, but it is a therapy that worked for me.  Please search for this and someone can help you with it.  It helps you forget the emotions associated with the episodes in your life.

I know you are probably in pain about your treatment.  I’ve talked to people who are in their 70’s who remember vivid bullying.  But learning acknowledge it, accept it and let go of it is the key.  It may take many years, but but by doing this(speaking for myself), it has lead to release and use of energy to explore other things with my spirit and mind, not anger.

 

 

 

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