The Overweight Empath and How to Control it

So, hello dear empaths, how are all of you today?  I’m going to talk to you about a subject that we all know too well;  empaths and our weight, a touchy subject to say the least.

I know how all of you feel.  I’m overweight, obese to be exact.  I know it and I’m not proud of it.  Have you ever noticed how many of us empaths are overweight?  I’m not sure of the numbers to be exact, but a safe guess is more like about seventy-five percent  of us.  Yes, we absorb negative emotions, and yes, we sometimes ‘stuff’ out feelings.  This causes weight gain.  But what about us who are just really careful about what we eat and are still overweight, like me?  Why?  I have several theories about this I’d like to share with you.

I have always been overweight, except during my teen and early twenties, even though some people still said I was overweight.(155 at 5’7″,  very large frame.  People said I was overweight, but I was actually within chart norms).  I used to be a semi-professional tennis player, playing up to 6 hours per day.  Not doing that I knew would cause weight gain, but my busy life still marched on.  Well, I had my first child, the second and third.  Weight crept up, no time to play tennis anymore.  I blamed it on that, but there was more to it, now I see it and I’ll tell you why because it pertains to you, too.

I was also teaching school, not normal classes or students, but students with severe emotional problems, in one of the most depressed places in the country.  Think about it; constant bombardment of stress mixed with all the negative emotions.  I was caught up taking care of a family at home and ay school.  Absorb, absorb, absorb. All of these negative emotions in my environment produced extreme amounts of cortisol and sapped my serotonin. I’m not a big eater; I eat less than 1800, often less than 1300 on an average day, which can be verified by anyone who knows me.  But I kept gaining weight. I thought all the exercise was the culprit, but there was more to the story.  “You’re not eating enough, you’re not exercising enough, yada, yada, the dietitians would tell me. , making me feel bad, and angry at myself, even after exercising for hours like I used produced no results. But they were missing something EXTREMELY important; I was an empath, and I was literally absorbing the GARBAGE of those around me.  That is what has caused my weight gain.( I really think that all dietitians by law should also be certified psychologists, but that’s another topic.)

Let me explain.  As an empath, we unconsciously absorb emotions from those around us, good or bad.  We are healers and we do it to help others feel better.  But we are also human.  Like any human that is hurting we self medicate.  When our anxieties are high and our serotonin is low, what do humans do to raise it?  Our main reaction to this is to eat carbs.  Carbohydrates literally raise our serotonin and dopamine levels.  We are trying to unsuccessfully heal ourselves, like we are healing those around us.

As for me, I didn’t think I was eating a lot of carbs.  I don’t eat bread(or try not to), I don’t eat root vegetables and don’t drink.  But I used to eat everything like that and my drug of choice was pasta.  Now remember, I don’t eat a lot, but what I was dong was that the percentage of my calories was still high in carbs.  This is where the kicker is, it has led to insulin resistance, and now my weight just doesn’t want to come off.

I’m sure there are many, many of you like I am.  We coped by eating carbs and didn’t even know it.  You yes, being an empath is hard on your body.  The stress, the strain, and the sugar spikes are devastating to your health, both mind and spirit, and you need coping strategies to deal with them.

The Daily Struggle:  How I’m handling It

Well, my aha moment came after after a serious back injury/ muscle tear and being away from teaching for 5 months, I noticed my anxiety had started going away the longer I was off work.  My friends kept telling me how well ‘grounded’ I was. .  And I LOST weight. So far, 30lbs.  I cleansed my body of sugars of all forms, and ate vegetables, meat and a few dairy products.  I was amazed.  I’ve never been able to lose weight like that that quickly.  I finally figured it out;  my emotional state was directly correlated to how much exposure from negative energy I was getting.  I was carrying around other people’s crap, literally. I always assumed that this had a lot to do with my weight, now I knew for certain. But I had to have a paycheck, so I had to go back.  What was I going to do?

SO I made a plan.  As humans, we like the security of routine. So I made this plan; I workout before I go to school, I do meditation and yoga every morning,  and concentrate on surrounding my empathic abilities with white light. I have been doing this now for 3 months, and although there are days where I let my empathic abilities gush, I just keep reminding myself to keep it together for myself and my wellbeing.  At so far, it seems to work.  I have not gained any weight back, although I have not really lost much more.  I can live with that for now. Do I cheat on my new eating habits?  Yes, we don’t live lives on diets, but I now have definitely pinpointed my weight problem, I am using strategies for sure that will help combat it.

Are there any people out there just like me?  I already know the answer;  all of us empaths are like this.  Helping to identify your reason for weight gain is the key to its loss. Once I knew it wasn’t really my fault, but the way my Higher Power made me emotionally has helped me to realize that even if I don’t lose all the weight(I’ll probably be overweight for the rest of my life in some way), that I am a divine creature with a mission and purpose.  I need to be conscious of my absorption of emotions and how it plays on my serotonin and dopamine at all times.  This way, I can find other ways to keep those levels up.  There have been several times that I just start waking outside and kept  walking until I feel better.  I know it has been a dopamine issue, and I am trying combatting it with other tools. At least I am trying. Find your bag of tools and stick to them.

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Is Your House REALY Haunted?

Good day, my empathic and spiritual seekers.  I’d like today to ask you a question: Do you ever feel like your house has “Something’ in it, i.e., maybe a spirit or guides, or you don’t even know what?  I bet it probably does, you don’t even quite understand it.

If anyone knows me, I’m name is Lana Duncan-Hartgraves, and I’m a psychic medium, hypnotist, Life Coach, Reiki healer, animal communicator and ghost hunter.  The ghost hunting is more of a fun hobby for me;  I do clearings for people if they truly do have entities.  I have yet to find ‘evil’ demons or such, sometimes just ‘lost’ souls who haven’t made it to the other side.  Sometimes also, they are attachments, or spirits that seem to ‘like’ certain people.  They are not evil per se, but they kind of tend to ‘suck’ the life out of you.  I know as a person who can feel and see ‘energies’, when I’m reading, I have to be very vigilant in making sure that these beings don’t attach to me and follow me around.

Some of you might wonder how to keep these energies from doing this, and it is very simple; MAKE THEM LEAVE.  Remember you give off much more energy they a passed spirit.  You ALWAYS have control.  The only time they get ahold of you is when you allow this through fear.  Remember that.  Make them go and they WILL!

Now back to your house……..yeah, these spirits do also sometimes ‘follow’ you around.  I remember that one time, I was ghost hunting and an entity that had committed suicide attached to me.  He had been gone since the late 80’s and he was amazed that I could hear him.  He thought he had someone who would listen. I didn’t realize he followed me home until the next day.  I saw him, with his straight leg jeans, , jean jacket and WHAM-styled haircut when I got up the next day.  I counseled him to move to the next dimension, and he finally did. I then burned some sage, said some prayers of protection to my angels ,and wore a little selenite for a few days.(Selenite protects from any negative energy.)

Yes, energies can follow you around, but you are in control, and it really doesn’t happen that often.  It happens to me a lot because of what and who I am.   But mostly what I find when people call me about a haunted house is that it’s not haunted or there are not any entities, but what I call a ‘ball of energy’ that has taken on a life of it’s own, almost like an entity.

Let me explain.  Thoughts and feelings are things; the exist just like a rock or plant.  It can be good, it can be bad.  It’s the bad emotions and thoughts that I will address here.  As humans, we have a habit of being negative; ever notice that a person can something bad to you, and you let it linger for weeks, but something good is said audit goes in one ear, and out the other?  Some scientists say it’s our way of problem solving and we are hardwired to do this.  I do know one thing; negative energy from fighting, yelling, screaming and general fear or any trauma in your house can form a huge ball of negative energy that takes on entity-type qualities; things like ‘black shadows’, feeling like someone is watching, bad dreams, things seem to disappear, and the like.  Yes, some attachments can also feed off this energy in your house, especially if they are also dark energies who have taken up residence with you.

Clearing Your House the Right Way

First, you need to address the fear and negative emotions coming from with in the house or that have been released in the house.  How did they get there?  Is anyone still experiencing them?  If so, work has to done to let them go.  I know it sounds hard, but through prayer, and meditation, it can be done.  Like I said, I ask Archangel Michael to protect me on my mission, and he ALWAYS comes through.  I truly believe this and maybe because of my faith, my house is clear. (I do have en entity in my house, but she’s harmless.  That’s another story). Once the ball of energy is addressed, if there are any entities(maybe, but probably not), then most of the entities should subside, because they no longer have anything to feed off of.

Second, clear any residual energy, that formed the ball of energy.  Find something you love and do it, or invite people over and laugh.  DO something positive.  That always seems to ‘break’ apart the energy.  Check for any entities that might be using wha’t left of the ball of energy in your house, and tell them to leave.  Ask Michael again for help.

Third, burn some sage, or do something that is ritualistic; I burn candles, light sage, and do something creative, like paint, draw or write.  This helps keep positive energy flowing. And remember, if you’re not confident doing this yet by yourself, you can always get a little help from one of us psychic mediums.

So remember; CHANCES ARE, your house probably is isn’t really haunted.  Yes, there have been entities in some of the house that I’ve helped clear, but most of the time,(about 90% from what I see), it’s just negative energy from emotions produced from you or someone before you.  Clear it through prayer and negative and DON”T BE AFRAID.

 

 

Psychic Abilities at Halloween: Are They Stronger?

So this page has been lost for some reason, so here we go again, reposting this, or at least trying to remember it.

Halloween. It drums up visions of bats, cats, skeletons and witches, but is there more to the story? It makes me wonder, because personally, I’ve found it to be true.

Halloween’s tradition is set back many millennia, from druids and Celts. They not only worshipped the harvest, but also valued to changes of the seasons. But there is much more to this. I know that my abilities are even stronger during this time, and I am positive that our ancestors knew this also.

For me personally, my abilities ‘rev’ up around October 15th to November 15th. It’s very hard to turn it off. I am compelled to walk up to strangers and give them messages from their dead family, angels and spirit guides. I do a lot of readings at this time, and am completely open at this time. I give off so much energy, it gives me anxiety, which leads to depression. It is hard to control at times, and I know I’m not alone with this issue.

I have been told by other psychics that they experience the same thing, and that it is believed that the ‘veil’ between the worlds is thinner, as we change from Fall to Winter. Right now as I write this, my abilities just don’t want to turn off. I have to do many different things and be very vigilant during this time to keep the abilities under wraps and myself grounded. This is not the only time this happens; when it rain or snows my abilities are much more acute. I blame that on electricity and water that is being used as a conductor. But I if you are like me, it can be hard. I’ve found a few ways to keep me from getting too much info and energy, and I will share them with you.

Keeping Your Ability Under Control

  1. Do something relaxing, such as a hobby. It takes your mind off of the energy, ad calms you.
  2. Exercise. I am a big proponent for exercise; it solves most problems. Go for a walk, jog, SOMETHING. It really does help.
  3. Spend some time alone, meditating. For me, i go on a long walk in the woods, by myself. I feel totally clear after that.
  4. Do some volunteer work, not necessarily in the psychic realm. Good energy in, good energy out.
  5. Wear some stones. Find which works for you. Personally I wear a lot of onyx during this time.

So try some of these things if you are having the same problems. It will pass, and your energy will return to normal.

Like Bread and Butter: Reiki and the Empath

Good day all dear empaths, wishing a great day of care and love on our mission to make the world a better place.  For those who are reading this, I hope you are already aware that you are indeed, an empath.  If not, please feel free to take a quick empath quiz on my site thewisewomansage.wordpress.com. You can find one on on of my pages, search empath test.

For the rest of us, gifted empathic beings, most of have heard about Reiki, but some of us  are unaware how important and beneficial it is to our abilities.  Reiki in simple terms is hands on healing. It is the very essence of a tiny piece of our higher being, used to help others heal physically, emotionally and spiritually. Now, think how close that relates to our mission:  We can use this to help others, COMBINED with our empathic abilities and knowledge(I have yet to find an empath that DOESN”T have some type of psychic gift.) One accentuates the other, plain and simple.

I will not go into a long story about myself because I want to concentrate of each and every one of you, but I will state that I owe everything to Reiki.  Reiki helped to increase my psychic and mediumship abilities. I didn’t even know I had psychic abilities at the time I received Reiki training.  I was thirty, my mother had passed suddenly, and a friend talked me into a training session.  I always had been a little ‘different’, very sensitive, bullied often, and always wanted to help others even at a cost to myself, and could feel what other people felt. I went through the training and began ‘practicing’ on some ladies in my group.  By the end of the session, I read them, told them about their highest potential, their passed family and messages from their guides. WOW!  I even shocked myself! I think that I probably always had the ability, but Reiki helped me ‘fine tune’ everything and bring it together.

This is why empaths need to PRACTICE SOME FORM OF REIKI.  It aligns with our mission, and feeds our ability, as well as our soul mission. If you aren’t interested in becoming a practitioner or Master, at least get some attuning with another individual.  What can it hurt but make you a better person and help you increase your vibration?

It’s also good to form friendships with those who practice the ‘healing arts’; be it massage, readings, aura and chakra clearings.  These people are usually very aware of Reiki and it’s benefits, and probably are practitioners or Masters themselves.

The 5 Benefits of Reiki on An Empath

There are many, many benefits to an empath who uses Reiki in their everyday life.  These are just a few.

  1.  Reiki clears your negative energy and attachments that you may have absorbed throughout the day.  This often manifests itself as anxiety and depression. We empaths meet some very negative(dark, low vibration) people and situations.  We even deal with negative attachments from ‘balls of energy’ as I call them, that surround you and sap you of your higher frequency.  Reiki helps release these.
  2. Reiki realigns your chakras.  Often, as empaths, our heart chakra is fifteen times bigger than the rest of our chakras.  That is imbalance. It can create havoc if your heart is out of alignment with your other needs. Reiki readjusts your chakras and puts you in balance.
  3. Reiki raises you vibration.  People who are highly evolved, like empaths, have a must faster and brighter vibration .  Empaths are literally a shining beacon in the darkness. This ‘light’ can dim from constant bombardment from negative energy and entities.  reiki helps raise the vibration to where it’s supposed to be.
  4. Reiki can actually heal your physical body, and release pain.  Did you know that as a whole, most empaths are often very physically healthy people?  I know some empaths that have some disorders,  but those that are truly light-working empaths,  are usually very, very strong, spiritually and physically.  Reiki keeps your body physically strong by once again clearing the negative energy, and correcting imbalances.
  5. Reiki brings you back to your ‘Source.”  I am calling this your higher power, whatever you may wish to call it.  We all know instinctively, there is something ‘else’ than this planet.  reiki reminds us of this and our purpose by opening our channels to receive our messages and love.

So as you can see, Reiki is very valuable, to everyone, ESPECIALLY Empaths.  Try it, I bet it will work for you!  Love, peace and Reiki.

 

 

The Lonely Empath: Keeping Yourself From Isolation

2013-07-17-11-25-05     Hello dear empaths…..I hope the world is ok with all of you.  I want to talk about a subject that I see many people are not talking about; empaths and how challenging it is to be one!  Not only are we constantly bombarded by other’s negativity, we KNOW things about people, which has a tendency to make us targets.

By the way, have YOU ever experienced this?  People target you because you KNOW the secrets of their hearts. This gives you power over them, and THEY HATE IT!  We empaths also give off a higher frequency and vibrations, and that really BUGS dark people.  My experience with people like this is that my energy is just too much for them.  I could say nothing, just stand in a room, and they HATE me.  I used to spend a lot of time thinking there was something wrong with me.  I thought I was ugly, fat, loud, dumb, etc., etc., etc., and the whole time, they didn’t WANT what I was selling; happiness and spiritual awakening. It took me a whole lot of time to come to this realization.

It has also caused me to isolate myself.  But that’s the problem; I really need to be with other people. ALL empaths need to be with people, animals, or anything social.  That’s why we came.  To help and heal others, even sometimes we put up with abuse, which is often with human beings.

“My mother always warned me about monsters.  Then I realized she taking about human beings.”

Over the last few years, I noticed I had isolated myself more and more.  I was soooooo tired of being made fun of, ridiculed, set-up for bullying at work, and just negativity of humans.  I started hanging around all of my animals.  They have always provided solace and healing, like all empaths.( that’s in the next article.) I would be invited to meet some others after work, or family on weekends, and I would just stay home.  This actually wasn’t like me; I’m a very outgoing person, but I was just tired of the struggle and negativity.  But I solved it, and you can, too.  Yes, force yourself to get out there.  I know it’s hard, but we came with our special gift, and isolating ourselves is the opposite of our mission.

Solving Anti-Socialism in Empaths

Yes, most of we empaths are guilty of this.  We surround ourselves with what heals us; animals or nature, and let the rest go.  While this is good, and we need to do this, we cannot stay in isolation forever.  Our job is make the world a better place, by helping humanity, and boy, does it need it!  Here are some things that I’ve done to help keep myself grounded and social at the same time.

1.  Find a group of other empaths.  I have a group of psychics that I formed and we meet once per week. It’s nice; they know how I feel without me even explaining myself, and I feel Like I belong.  People NEED other people.  If you think this is NOT true, you are lying to yourself.  Yes, I know people can be crappy, but there are GREAT people, too.  FIND THEM!

2.  Donate some time.  Find something to give to, even if it’s only once per month.   Humans were born to help each other, especially empaths.  I donate once per month to tutor students at my school. I also take a good friend of mine suffering from Alzheimer’s out once per week. You never know how much those little things mean to other people.

3. Learn how to block your abilities in a large crowd.( You can read more about this from my other blogs.) I personally imagine a large blue-green shimmering pyramid around me, and nothing can get in.  I personally see 600+ students per week as an art teacher, and have learned how to turn it ‘off’ to a certain point. Yes, this is still a struggle and certain time of the year are worse(yes, there is something to the October 31st thing strengthening your abilities!), but turning it ‘off’ just takes some practice. Yes, empaths CAN do this. Keep working on it.

4.  Try to spend time with family, even of they do drive you crazy! I know, I know, I felt like that with my mom.  But now she’s gone,  I wish I just one more time to say, “You’re driving me crazy!”  Your family, at least most of them, really do love them.  Let them in. I’ve found several friends that act as my family also, and those ARE part of my family. Just let them in. Make small baby steps if you have to, if even for an hour or two.

 

Don’t isolate yourself, even if it makes you feel better for too long.  Your gifts belong to the humanity and the world.  It is your duty to give them freely!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Empaths, Psychics and Their Diets

So Dear Readers, I come to you with some knowledge and maybe, hopefully some feedback that I can learn from.  Please remember this is an interactive blog:  I wanna hear from you!  The more I learn, the more I realize how much I DON’T know.  Everyone does everything differently, and while I consider myself a fairly enlightened person, suggestions are always appreciated.

I heard recently about a blog and how to heal your physical and spiritual body through foods and herbs.  While I agree that this hypothesis is right, there are other things that I’d like to touch upon to address some things that I think people are forgetting.

  1.  Psychics and Empaths are different, just as our genetic metabolisms are different.  

Everyone on the planet is evolving differently and at different rates.  You may also have a psychic talent someone else does not have.  I am a medical animal and human intuitive, and while I can give you readings in other areas, I don’t concentrate on love and relationships.(Here we go on beliefs again.  I don’t concentrate on them because I feel you need to work on yourself more!).What helps expand your abilities, might not be right for the next.  For me, when I am doing several readings back-to-back, I don’t eat, consume no alcohol or caffeine or even drugs like aspirin.  It seems to dull my senses.  I drink water, almost like a mini-fast.  Several people I know do this also. But I also know some people who don’t do this and are fine.  Try both and see what works.  It does seem that many Empaths and Psychics do what I do; but I have a friend who says it makes no difference for him.

2.  Different eating styles depends on your awareness, and your beliefs.

Some people are vegans, some omnivorous, eat Mediterranean diets, etc.  It’s more about how you honor life. Vegans are not any more ‘evolved’ than those who consume animal products; it’s just simply their beliefs.  I find it very irritating as a psychic and medium to have someone smuggle make comments about how I eat dead animals.  It’s my belief system.  My feeling is that all things must die for others to eat, including plants.  I simply pay reverence to those that die.  As an animal communicator, I understand that animals know they will die and they also know God.  They are not afraid to die.  Now that’s my belief.  I’ve had other people who tell me that they can feel the animal dying when they eat it.  That is ok, but please don’t judge me for my beliefs.  We are all Empaths and psychics.  I just feel differently, as do you.

3. Unnatural foods, like refined sugar can negatively affect your abilities.

I’ve been trying for months to cut out sugar.  I started treating it like a poison, which honestly it is.  I noticed that my abilities became sharper and quicker.  I also began to only eat organic animal products and saw a positive results. I also watch using plastics and try hard to rid myself of natural and synthetic hormones.

4.  Certain Vitamins may help.

This may be very true if you have a deficiency, but for me, B12 has made a HUGE difference in my abilities.  It has given me a clear mind and energy to do lots of readings, which can drain any psychic. You can do a trial an error, but I recommend B12 and vitamin D.  I do liquids.  I sometimes also include liquid vitamin C.  I also ingest Turmeric and occasionally Ashwaghanda before I read.  It makes me clear and happy.

So, what works for you?  I’ve found these things to be beneficial for me.  It’s trial and error.  I wish you good health, and a strong Empathic ability!