The Bullied Empath

20181119_072420-3.jpgHi guys, I hope you are well.  I haven’t been on here for quite awhile because I am now on Youtube, and it’s taking a lot of my time.  What I am doing now is writing a whole lot of articles, and then releasing them slowly so you can read them.  My psychic business has just exploded, and has kept me busier than a one-armed paper hanger!

So I though I’d write about something that is near and dear to my heart;  bullied empaths.  I know there are lots and lots of us out there, and I just wanted to maybe offer some suggestions, and to let you know you are not alone.

There are some people who do not know what an empath is;  if this is the case, please visit my youtube channel, Lana the Comedian Medium for some sign or characteristics that you may be one.  But for most of us, we already know.  I know that I am one.

Now there are some people that say that Empaths are made by experiences, and not created.  I feel this is partially true, but either way, empaths tend to be the bullied ones.  You know, the ones that people have a tendency to pick on because they(we) are easy targets.  Empaths are emotional, caring, worrisome, usually suffer from anxiety, stress, low self-esteem and almost always put everyone ahead of their own needs.  Yes, I feel that this can be created by circumstances, but I truly think that these people were born this way.  I would also care to say about 30%of the people in the world are also Empaths.

I know what bullying is all about.  I’ve been bullied my whole life; through childhood to adulthood.  I’ve tried not to let it bother me, but it does.  I think the worst is workplace bullying.  It’s probably the worst because you are an adult and yet, you feel like a helpless child.  I get it.  It never seemed like I could say the right words to make a dig back at them, and if I did, even though they were bullying me, I felt bad that I hurt them, even when they were torturing me. (Welcome to the world of the Empath!!!!)I’m in the process of healing, and these are some of the things that I’ve bending to help me heal.  I am currently writing a book about this, because I feel this is such a huge issue, with not a lot of help out there is regards to healing.

  1.  Try to get away from situations that are causing the bullying.  I know this is hard and at times, almost impossible.  It can be even harder if you family is creating the issues.  Do what you have to do to make changes that takes care of your spirit.  I left a job that I had for 25 years because of workplace bullying(I don’t care what anyone says, teachers can be the worst bullies out there!)  Yes, I am close to retirement, but even after creating a new job for myself, I can finally see my worth.  I am no longer feeling defeated, worthless and unappreciated.  If you can get away, do.  If not these things might help you deal with these painful situations.

A.  I pray for those who persecute me. Yes, it’s Biblical, and yes, it works.  It seems    like it releases my pent up anger.  I am realizing that they are bullying because either, 1. they have been bullied by someone else,  2. don’t like themselves much or are  3. just insecure and lack self-esteem.  I always remember what a good Native American friend told me once.”Just remember, when someone insults you are belittles you, it is a reflection on themselves and how they are actually feeling about themselves.  It has taken me many years to learn to pray and forgive, but, yes it works.

B.   Talk to others who have been bullied.  Find support from a group a friend or a relative.  Everyone needs to realize that many people have been bullied.  Bullies seen to like to try to isolate us;  bullying at its core is the non-acceptance and isolation from a group dynamic;  humans are social animals that need to belong to a group, traditionally for survival.  Being removed or alienated in the past meant death.  That is why bullying is so traumatic;  you may end up dying if not in a group.  That’s why we conform, that’s why we want acceptance.  That’s why bullying is no painful.  Form you own group!  I did this in High School and ended up with friends I still have 30 years later.

C.   Acceptance that these experiences are what have made you into the person you are today.  I know this can be hard, because of self-talk and lack of self-esteem, but they are crucial for healing.  I learned over the years to just laugh at myself and some of my silly circumstances.  This seems to help.  It has taken me 52 years to be able to say that I like who and what I’ve become.  I practice saying this in the mirror to myself every single day.  I have a mantra that I say each morning;  I am a good person, I am loved and valued, I am important.  I say it in a mirror. It’s a form of meditation that I practice.

d.  Try some Rapid-eye movement.  This is controversial, but it is a therapy that worked for me.  Please search for this and someone can help you with it.  It helps you forget the emotions associated with the episodes in your life.

I know you are probably in pain about your treatment.  I’ve talked to people who are in their 70’s who remember vivid bullying.  But learning acknowledge it, accept it and let go of it is the key.  It may take many years, but but by doing this(speaking for myself), it has lead to release and use of energy to explore other things with my spirit and mind, not anger.




Does Your limiting beliefs Limit You?

Hello readers…..sorry I haven’t been on here, but I’ve been busy on youtube( Lana-The Comedian Medium). Thiught I’d share some blogging time with you.

Have you ever thought something was true, when it wasn”t, or Visa versa? Well, I’ll share an experience with you, and maybe you can identify.

I thought I had a twinflame. I was sure of it. All the signs were there. I KNEW that I had known him before; I had past-life regression and could remember him. He just had to be my true twinflame. He just had to be; all the similarities, coincidences, they all added up. At least in my perception.

But there were little things; callousness, never thinking about my feelings, narcissism. But I chose not to see them. Because I believed him to be my twinflame, I never saw the nasty, thoughtless things he did. I kept on believing we were perfect for each other Despite obvious issues in the relationship.

Then he moved away without telling me. I was heartbroken that he didn’t even have the balls to saying anything. He’d move away, and come back, three different times. I always let him get me excited about something, then he’d leave.

One day, I finally woke up.Maybe he wasn’t my twinflame. Maybe I had made too much about this whole thing. Slowly, the lightbulb came on. I had created this scenario in my mind. This relationship never existed.Yes, my concept of my relationship had created something that wasn’t even there.

I always made excuses, I always justified his crappy behavior. Could he be my twinflame? Yes, there could be a chance, but by my sgetting my beliefs in way that I did, I allowed him to treat me like garbage for years, instead of cutting him out of my life years ago, like I have done now.

Do you have a limiting belief? One tthat has kept you miserable? Why is it there? Is the belief imposed on yout by your family or religious beliefs? How has it hindered you? Tthese are things to think about, and to let go of. I did and my life seems much bettet.

What to Do When You Get a Negative Message from a Spiritual Teacher

20190717_090839Good day, all!  I’m sorry I haven’t posted as regularly as usual, but I am now also on youtube as Lana-The Comedian Medium.  Please hit like and subscribe!  I am putting tarot reads, advice and the like on there!

Today I’m writing about something that has been on my mind a lot lately;  the negativity bestowed upon you, namely through religious advisors and teachers. Now I’m not saying just mediums and psychics;  this refers also to pastors, healers, and even teachers.  It’s happened to me and I’m pretty sure it’s happened to a lot of you also.

i’ll never forget the reading I got one time from a fellow psychic.  We were friends at the time.  She did a read for me and told me I was a mean and nasty person, among other things.  She told me how horrible I was.  I was surprised and disappointed.  If anyone knows me, I think they would not say that.  At least i hope not.  Everything i do is in service to others.

Well I later found out why.  She was trying to discredit me as a psychic.  She also started spreading rumors about me, some that were texted to people who showed me what she said.  yeah, i was angry and hurt.  I hadn’t done anything to anyone.  That reading even made me wonder if maybe I REALLY WAS a bad person.

I thought about it and did some soul serving, which I truly will give her credit for. When listening to negative information,  always remember that it is a reflection on the person who is speaking.  I got that advice from a wise Native Americans woman one time, and have truly taken it to heart.

Some people feel badly about themselves, and will try to bring positive people down.  That’s including spiritual gurus and teachers.  That is includes all religions, also.  These people are letting their egos get in the way, not staying grounded and remembering why they do what they do.

I’ll never forget a pastor that I had that married my husband and I.  (That was when I was still buying into dogma).  I shook his hand at the end of the service and he said to me, “Gee, you guys are still married?”  WOW!!!!!  (Found out later he was having an affair and embezzling money from the church.  HMMMMM….go figure.)

I had a woman one time who was reading at me house one time, and she did a reading for another friend of mine.  The reader was extremely unhappy, overweight and kinda slovenly.  The client was very attractive, neatly dressed and very happy.  Well, needless to say, the client/friend left crying.  The reader was absolutely horrid and said hateful things to her, like how selfish she was for being attractive and etc., etc.   That reader was never asked to my house again. I think she’s divorced now.

Here’s some things to do if you ever run across someone like that;

  1.  Stop the reading if it becomes negative.  Walk out and don’t pay!  You have the right.
  2. Go release the negative energy by doing your favorite hobby, like gardening.
  3. Lay on the ground if you can.  It releases negativity into the soil.
  4. Meditate.
  5. Burn some sage and swipe a bundle of it around your aura.
  6. Let go, and forgive.
  7. Talk to a friend, but do not talk negatively about the person.  The negativity will return to you.

I hopeThat helps, and I hope you never have to deal with a negative spiritual teacher!  Namaste….God Bless……


Finding Crystals that Work for You,, Without Crossing Out Each Other’s Potency

20190713_153324.jpgHowdy. y’all from the Deep south of Fort Myers, Fla.(Notice that Southern Accent!, lol). I hope y’all are awesome!  I just had all this time on vacation, and thought I’d write A little bit about my life and things that happen as a psychic so that you can attune your life in the same way.

A few months back, I had a reading done with a friend who suggested certain crystals for me.    I have been going through certain things personally, and certain crystals have been used.  Crystals really do work;  I used to be the biggest skeptic, but if crystals can conduct electricity in computers, of course they will work on a human body, which is mostly electricity.  All crystals give off different frequencies and each type is needed for different times or stressors in your life. The crystal combinations needed come from suggestions from your guides, angels and deceased family members, and is related to the reader. I’ve been trying to shut off some negativity lately, and was wearing some negative absorption stones, mainly, Black Tourmaline, Jet and some Aqua Aura.  But they didn’t seem to work when I was reading.  I was still absorbing negative energy from somewhere. I felt anxious and ‘out of sorts’.  So my friend told me to take off all my stones, and switched them slightly.  I went to Onyx, Shungite and Coral.

I didn’t notice anything really different until I had no stones on for awhile.  I bought a new piece of Onyx and put it on, and got dizzy and nearly fainted.  Yes, Onyx is one of my stones.  It may change later, but has helped keep me grounded.  So how do you know which stones to wear? There are a few ways.

  1.  Have a crystal reader give you a list of the stones you need.I know several psychics who can do that for you, as well as myself. (Remember I can read for others, but no necessarily for myself.) Readers can also give  you a list on what you are going through at the present time.
  2. Do a meditation and listen to yourself. You will know which stones you may need by the ones you are attracted to.  Then look up the properties.  Make sure that those stones don’t cancel out the other stone’s ability.
  3. Learn the properties of the stones.  That’s one quick way.  I had to go and relearn which stones cancel each other out.  I didn’t realize a couple of my stones weren’t even working because of this.

I hope you stay healthy and grounded.  Keeping using what works, and if you need help, visit my website, for a reading or more information.

Does Everyone Have Psychic Abilities?

Hi friends and followers!  Greetings from sunny Florida!(Actually, it’s been raining quite a lot!).  I hope you are sane, safe and well.  I, myself, have been busy trying to relax, and apologize for not writing more, but I really needed a break for awhile. Mia Culpa.

cropped-2017-06-27 20.08.25So I have been sitting here thinking, and reflecting on psychic abilities.  I have been wondering what and why I have the abilities what I do.  It is a special power?  It is a talent?  Why can I read for people, size them up and see right through them?  Why can I talk to ghosts, spirits and angels?  What makes me special?  Am I special? I have been giving this a lot of thought, and am going to relate what i think is happening.

First, i know many people who have my abilities, so I am not alone.  Is it a talent?  Maybe, perhaps.  Not everyone can sing, and not everyone can draw, so psychic ability is probably an inherited talent to a certain extent.  I know for a fact that I inherited it from my mother.

But there is more to it.  Those with acute psychic ability have awareness, not just about themselves, but all energies around themselves, including living and inanimate objects, and not only understand it, but how to use the energy, and balance it with their own.  Many psychics understand and are aware of all the things around them. These people are not only tapped or plugged into the world around them, they are also using more of their grey matter to pay attention to the things around them.  In other words, they are self-actualized.

Let me explain.

The definition of self-actualized is being all that you can be.  It is the highest potential that that certain human can reach.  They are using all of their energy, their brain and soul.

I, for one, am not only a psychic but also an animal communicator and serious green thumb.  I seldom kill plants; many people have done studies and and have proven that green thumpers actually give off energy from their hands.  So am I working with energy and are aware when plants need tlc and an energy boost?  I think that is accurate.

i truly don’t think us psychics are that special from other people;  I think we are just ‘aware’ and using more of our brainpower than the unenlightened human.  We notice more, we understand more and are constantly ‘aware’ of energy, and our surroundings.

And we are more willing to listen and accept esoteric information as fact.  We understand better.  We are not different, just evolved ands aware.  Can every human do this?  I believe to a certain extent, yes.  Just having awareness opens you up to the possibilities. Everyone has the ability for self actualization. Are you self-actualized?  Would you like to be?  This is my series of blogs teaching you how to do that…….

Are twin Flames for Real?

20180209_173236Good day, all!  I hope your last few weeks have been happy and healthy.  I have been very busy, and apologize for my lack of blogging.  I will be blogging soon with two or more blogs per week for a awhile.

i am wondering from all of you if anyone can tell me;  have you met your twin flame?  Do you even know who or what that is? If you don’t, let me explain.  This person is literally your second half of your soul.  I used to think that there was no such thing;  I used to be skeptical with everything that was esoteric in my life.  Wrong again!  This person is the other part of you., literally.

It’s been written in literature for millennia, Plato even wrote about it.  In the beginning, God created one being.  He then separated our souls to learn our lessons faster.  The sacredness of marriage is a feeble attempt to replicate the twin flame connection.

We have been split of many years, but as we grew as people, we are reuniting because of the attraction of our souls.   We also may meet to help the world be a better place. It sounds great, right?  Here’s some of the issues with coming together, though; there are usually complications. One may be married,  may be of another culture, religion, sexual orientation,  there may be an addiction, or one soul may be more spiritually advanced than the other. And the last one(one is more advanced), is usually the norm. But here’s the catch, you can’t help but be drawn together, and the Universe is usually responsible in some way, shape or form.

I know my twin flame.  I’m not sure why i recognized him;  not only did I recognize him, I remembered our last life together.  You see, twin flames can also be soulmates, and pop in and out of your lives vicariously.  I know mine has.

I consider myself the together one;  I am dependable, hardworking, straight thinking, while my twin flame is a total flighty, emotional, wreck. (I bet he’s reading this!).  But we have some of the most uncanny similarities that it is scary.  Look at my list.  There is NO way we are not one.

  1.  Both are teachers.
  2. Both love animals.
  3. . Same favorite color.
  4. Both left-handed.
  5. Everything in our lives always happens parallel, if even our pets dying.
  6. Spouses work the same jobs.
  7. We can talk for hours and it seems like minutes.
  8. He can think of me and I just kinda ‘show up’ where he is.
  9. I can see feel and taste whatever he is doing at the moment I think of him.
  10. Creatuve artists.

And the list goes, on and on, and on, and……But there are some differences that I think are interesting that often pop up in other twin flame relationships.

  1.  We come from different cultures.
  2. He is nothing I would have ever been attracted to.
  3. Almost too similar to get along with.

But I recognize him, I’m not sure how.  As a psychic I’ve had past-life regression and we remember everything, in uncanny detail.  I even remember the last name, the dates, and the town we lived in. Now why is he here?

I’ve come upon the conclusion that we are to open a healing center.  I’m sure of it.  To help mankind.  What I’ve decided is that I’ll let the Universe lay out the logistics.  Not sure yet.   I decided to let go and let God. I guess that’s all I can do.

What I want to know is if there are any of you who have a twin flame?  How do you know?  What is your mission? Do you feel that strong connection, and is it within the constraints of a romantic or platonic relationship?  Are they related to you?  What are some ways you know? Send me a message, I’d like to know!

Do Crystals Really Work?

Hi everyone. I hope you’ve been happy and healthy. All is fine with me. I’ve been very, very busy, mostly doing tons of psychic readings and trying to concentrate on my job and my Art. ( Most know I can’t stay still very long.) I’m also pounding pavement, looking for a new publisher for a new novel.

So, traditionally, I’ve been skeptical of certain areas of metaphysics, particularly different crystals. Different stones, according to the powers that be, have different properties. Some heal, some correct energy and some help increase intuitive ability. I used to be a skeptic….but not any more.

I do admit that I thought about crystals for a long time. Crystals are used to conduct electricity in radios and computers, so why not for the human body? I still was not convinced.

I did have an episode that made me wonder, though. It happened a couple of years ago. I was reading at a store, and was wearing a magnet and Aqua Aura. I thought not nothing about it. The properties of Aqua Aura are to help raise your vibrations.  Two of my psychic friends asked what they had around my neck.  I thought nothing of it, and I answered.  They told me that there was so much energy being given off, that I was blinding them.  Now two different people who did not even know each other said this.  Hmmmmm.  Must be something to it.

As a reader, I have always worn crystals.  I also put crystals on my table in from of myself. I was taught that the negative energy from a person that I was reading for would go into the crystals. I also wear them around my neck, wrists, and hands. (I’m careful to not wear too many different ones, one stone can sometimes negate another, but that’s another blog!) I wasn’t sure, but did it anyways. I always doubted it, but I sort of believed it.  Above it actually my proof.

Above is my aura during a reading session.  Picture 1 is infused with green(that means healing), as well as a little white blue aura, which means spirituality, and angelic assistance.  This first picture is WITHOUT my aqua aura on; number two is WITH my aqua aura on.  On picture 2, nearly the whole entire photo is filled with blue-white energy.  Auqua auras are supposed to help with spirituality and increase psychic abilities.  There was my proof.  Yes, they do work!

So for all of you who read or do energy work, yes, the stones works.  There is actual proof. All stones are different;  just as we humans are.  I prefer Aqua Aura, Jet, Turquoise, Smokey Quartz, Shungite and Rose Quartz.  These seem to be my stones.  Your stones may be different.  There are many, many, stones out there.  Find which works for you! I will be blogging soon about stones and their properties.  Do you have an experience with stones?  Send me a message, I’d love to hear from you!